My name is RUBY. I'm Filipino.
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"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decided to be."
Yung 4 years na friendship na yan, kung gusto ka talaga nyan, aamin na yan.. ngayon kung naghihintay ka pa rin, tumigil ka na, sayang oras mo! Na-friendzone ka na te! Kasi yung tagal na yun ng paghihintay mo eh sana nailaan mo na para sa ibang tao na mas deserving.. wake up wake up din pag may time! Panahon na para mag-let go ng feelings na kahit kailan hindi naman nabigyan ng sukli.#ParaKaninoTo? #BasedOnOwnExperienceBaTo? #NatatawaAko#WagasSaAdvice #MayPinagdaanan hahaha!! XD
To improve your relationship, improve your life and your love for yourself. If a relationship “makes you” crazy, neurotic and paranoid, it is inevitable that the relationship will fall apart.
But instead of comparing lives and playing the grass is always greener, I compiled a list of reasons (freedoms!) why you should enjoy flying solo and appreciate moments of solitude.
1. Enjoying your own space. This may seem obvious, and there are also plenty of married couples and people in relationships who enjoy their own space—literally—and live in their own apartments or sleep in separate bedrooms. But there’s something about having the freedom to come and go places, like spending a long weekend in Miami with your girlfriends without having to consult with your other half, or enjoying a random afternoon at a café or the park without feeling guilty about leaving your sweetie behind. It’s a pretty big bonus to not have to check in or follow up with someone about your daily business.
2. Focusing on your own career and life goals. There’s no greater freedom than pursuing your own career and passion without having to plan it around someone else’s future. Take this time to focus on your life goals and ask yourself what you would like to achieve in the next few years. Do you want a higher degree? What’s your dream job? What are you most passionate about? Develop your own identity and let yourself shine through your work and actions. And, it doesn’t need to be big-picture goals either. Maybe, you’ve been meaning to sharpen your cooking skills, learn a new instrument, or take up another language. Being single gives you the license to do certain things people in relationships cannot.
3. Appreciating the life you have. When you’re single, it’s easy to get caught up in the life you want, rather than enjoying the life you already have. But there’s something to appreciate about dictating your own time and space and enjoying moments of solitude. Reflect on your life’s blessings, including your family and friends, your career, your health, and even your fabulous personality. If you don’t believe me, check out this inspiring video from Andrea Dorfman about how to be alone.
4. Spending your money as you please. If you want to splurge on a new Celine bag, go ahead. If you want to get a mani and pedi, why not? That’s not to say you should be careless with your money, but it’s great to be able to treat yourself and spend your money as you wish. You don’t need to save money to re-decorate the living room, worry about looking for the most lavish birthday present for your boyfriend, or being sensitive to the kind of Christmas gift you give his family and friends.
5. Finding the right person. Being single is a great time to reflect on what you look for in a boyfriend or husband. Think of all the deal breakers you know you won’t be happy with in a relationship, but also create a list of all the good qualities and things that are most important to you. Do you want a family? Would you re-locate for love? Instead of rushing into a relationship for the sake of being in one, let things happen “organically.” Use this time to also heal and find closure after a painful breakup or relationship. Sometimes your happy ending isn’t with someone else; it’s about finding yourself and being happy with who you are.
6. Being selfish. It’s not that you don’t want to share your time and life with someone else, or that you’re being irresponsible, it’s just that you don’t have to. When you’re single, you can truly do whatever you want that people in relationships can’t really do. You can spend your own energy, time, and resources on your own whim without having to get someone else’s approval.
Do You Reject The Rejection?
You won’t close every sale, no matter what you do.
Because some people won’t like you.
In fact, along the way, you’ll get lambasted, criticized, ridiculed.
In a word, you’ll be rejected.
Well, I have another word for you: Reject the rejection. Because somewhere near that door that just shut, you’ll find a door that is open. So keep on looking.
Eleonor Roosevelt was right when she said, No one can make you feel inferior without your consent…
Some Great Failures You May Know…
One day, a man was taking a train ride feeling dejected because he wasn’t accepted in a writing job he was applying for. The editor who evaluated his work said he “lacked creativity.” In that train ride, this man was doodling in his little note pad and a little mouse was born on that piece of paper. That mouse’s name was Mickey, and that man’s name was Walt Disney.
Do you think Albert Einstein was esteemed by all his teachers and classmates alike? Think again. As a kid, one professor said Albert’s grades were very mediocre, he was the most likely student to amount to nothing.
Thomas Edison had more than a thousand failed experiments before he invented the light bulb. A thousand! It was he who said, Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. He reaped the fruit of that principle as he has, aside from that light bulb, 1,092 inventions under his name.
I’ve failed more times than Edison. In the past twenty years, as a leader of many organizations, I’ve made many mistakes, and some people hated me for them. (I’ve also made a lot of good decisions, and some people hated me for them as well!) At any one point in my life, I simply could have given in to my fears and hung the towel and said, “That’s it. I’m quitting.” But I don’t have to follow my fears if the deepest voice in my heart says, “Go on. Do what’s right.”
In any job, whether you’re a salesman meeting hundreds of people a day or an accountant locked up in your cubicle, rejection is a given. It’s just merely a question of when it will come, from whom, and how you’re going to respond to it.
The best response is to keep on looking for the open door.
If you’ve got something that people need, and you advertise it, people will be opening their doors to you.
You don’t have to close every sale to succeed.
Have you experienced some rejection? They’ve lost a wonderful opportunity to work with you and gain your services. Keep walking. Keep searching. There’s a lucky person out there, a fortunate company out there who will receive your blessing.
Write down now a long list of other doors you can look into!
May your dreams come true,
Ask me a question (yung di nakakaasar) pwede about life, love, friendship etc :) Guidance major po ako now.
Don’t focus on finding or meeting the right person. Your focus should be on being the right person. You will find (meet) the right one for you when you are the right one for you.